Agony Aunt

Gentle coaching

Dear Lilu

I have recently been engaging in extra-curicular activities with a new partner but have become concerned at some of his comments. Whilst giving a blow job a couple of nights ago, he accused me of being 'too gentle'. Having never received any complaints in this department before, I was rather shocked and upset to think that I had been doing it wrong all these years.

What do you think he means by this? Do I need to be rougher? Is the use of teeth strictly necessary as in my experience this had made the penis shrink inexplicably? Should I try more general pressure? I have found that attempting to suck harder has resulted in lock jaw as it is very difficult to do with a mouth full of cock.

Any tips would be much appreciated as I would truly like to be able to satisfy my man.

Many thanks,

Concerned in Devon

PS Great tits by the way!

Dear Concerned in Devon,

To hear that a woman likes my tits is always nice, Im sure you've got a gorgeous pair yourself!

I can understand and sympathise with you completely on this matter. It's not nice for a guy to make you feel like you are doing something wrong, especially in that area.

To be honest I don't think that you are doing anything wrong, blokes can be very fussy when it comes to things like that. A lot of men like blow jobs to be rough and they literally like you to shove it down your throat until you are gagging on it!!!! This of course is not very pleasant for a woman, well some anyway..

The only thing I can suggest is ask him what he thinks your doing wrong, then maybe you can talk about it and work from there.

Rough blow jobs can be good, but only if you feel comfortable doing them. But please make sure he knows that that is what you are going to do, otherwise he might jerk a little too much and then the whole teeth thing will happen, ouch!! Then you will have no sex life to speak off for a few days.

If all else fails, point him in the direction of a Dyson, apparently they work very well.

Let me know how it works out.

- Lilu